Abortion Pros/Cons? I need to make up my mind? Help please?

Abortion Pros/Cons? I need to make up my mind? Help please?

Abortion Pros/Cons? I need to make up my mind? Help please?


Ive been there I know how hard it is to decide but let me tell you, I made the best decision in choosing abortion. I had just been made redundant for the second time, was living in a small one bed flat with my boyfriend and found out I was expecting twins not just the one. I was on birth control when I feel pregnant so it was an even bigger shock. I wasnt ready to be a mum and couldnt afford 2 babies and had no space for them. Making the decision to abort was the hardest decsion Ive ever had to make in my whole life but again the best decision I ever made and definitely the most mature. Adoption is not for everyone and isnt always the best option that everyone makes it out to be. There is no shame in any decision you make. Its your body and your choice. Abortion doesnt ruin relationships either as some will say. Im still with the same man, newly married and expecting our first baby in 2 weeks. Life is great right now. If I had kept my twins life would be so different and Id hate to think where Id be as I know it would be a daily struggle. Dont feel you need to justify your decision to abort or to keep or even your thoughts on adoption. Only you can decide on such a decision. I will just give you a little advice if you choose abortion, go with the surgical which you have to past 9 weeks anyway I think? Its proven to be much less traumatising compared to the medical which is a medically induced miscarriage and evry painful. My surgical abortion was a very positive experience and the only pain I felt was a little discomfort in my womb when I turned in my sleep the next day. I bled like I would a normal period to with no clots. My sister had the medical was in alot of pain felt very ill until the fetus passed and bled alot and had clots the size of her fist which is all very normal for the medical as I was told when I was given the choice. It sounded awful. Good luck with whatever you decide though. You will make the right decision for you. You cant go by what others think on this site but I just wanted to give you the best advice I could from my own experience. I will just add after reading some comments I do not have one regret.


I think you have just answered your own question to be honest sounds to me like the best thing (although hard and very sad) is an abortion a baby is so time consuming it would literally be your life your boyfriend would come second and you would regret not living the life you wanted, I'm pregnant but I'm 22 and if I were your age I would of got an abortion it's not cruel aslong as its early, you say it's only 9 weeks of you make a decision it has to be now as it's growing more and more I'm not saying an abortion is the right thing to do but seriously it's the wiser, you may not stay with your current boyfriend and being a single mum is so so hard. At the end of the day you can still have children in the future, it's your choice but I didn't even understand how expensive and time consuming they are mines not even born yet and I have a whole house full with baby things, it's very overwhelming, strangers on the Internet can't tell you what to do its what you think is best, it's one of the hardest decisions you'll probably ever make and i hope whatever choice you make works out for you I really do x


You are in a difficult situation, and BOTH your options suck. This whole things just SUCKS. It's ok to be angry and frustrated and confused. What you need to do, is either accept that your life is about to change, OR learn to live with having an abortion. Being a mother isn't easy, even when a baby is wanted, and planned, and you CAN provide for it. But i tell you what, ONE happy moment in a whole year, ONE smile from your little one, hearing them chuckle even once, can just make my whole year. No matter how much money you have, it's never enough. lol. A child doesn't need to be burdensome, like you seem to think it will be. Sure, the partying will go out the window, but if you're in a committed relationship you don't need to date anymore, so that doesn't really matter. There are PLENTY of teens mothers who finish school and go on to have successful careers, particularly if they have the support of their family. I find that my child is not an interruption unless i sit there worrying about what an interruption they are! Going out to dinner for eg. We CAN still do that, it takes a bit more effort and has more chance of being cut short by vomit or crying, but most of the time it's fine. As long as we TRY to still do things, then she doesn't 'interfere' with our lives. "I won't have to pay for missing one BC pill for the rest of my life" Maybe you should look at it from the other way around? You might be watching your child one day thinking 'yes it's been hard, and it's not how i planned it, but damn, i am sure glad i missed that pill!' There should be counselors who can help you with this, possibly at family planning. All i know is, if you decide on abortion, you have to be damn sure that's what YOU want. Don't do it because you don't want to disappoint your parents, and don't do it because you feel ashamed.


On a decision like this, YOU need to decide what to do. This is your life, your baby and your feelings. I had 2 kids when I was young (18 and 20). My kids are now 17 and 18. Times were tough, but I earned two college degrees and you bet I had a social life! It's just a lot of hard work, but I can't stand it when people say they won't have a life or get educated. You need to think hard how you will feel after having abortions. Personally, I would rather raise a child for 18 years versus living with the guilt the rest of my life. Some people are strong. I am weak. I couldn't do it and I recognized that. Whatever choice you make, you have to realize you can't look back and make the best of it. Good luck to you!


You should keep the baby. A lot of the negative things your thinking that will happen if you have the baby and keep it are untrue. You can still finish high school, go to university, and still get a good career. It may be hard but eventually you and your baby will get older and it will get easier. People finding out your pregnant even at 17 is not something to be embarrassed about if it happened and your willing to take responsibility for your actions. If someone found out you had an abortion at 17 and you didn't take responsibility for your child that would be more embarrassing. Your family may find out you had an abortion some how and they would probably wish you consulted with them instead so they could have helped you more and most parents come to love the fact that they are going to become grand parents even if its sooner then expected. If you have a baby you will still get to be a kid. To be honest at 17 the best part of your childhood is already over at that point there is nothing left but growing up to do anyway. Having a child will let you enjoy childhood things again. You can still get married and have more children in the future when your ready. Not having a child doesn't make it "easier" for you to get married. Plenty of women don't have any kids and yet their still single. You may not feel ready to be a mother now but you will get ready once you start enjoying your pregnancy and getting to know your baby. You can get money to pay for the baby from the child's father and you can get a part time job. Once the baby is born your family will help out even if it feels like they will never support right now they will help you when the time comes. If you love your child you can provide a good life for your child. A baby is not a punishment for you missing your birth control pill. Start thinking of the baby as a blessing. What if you aren't able to get pregnant in the future when you feel you are ready? Aborting this child is something that you will have to pay for for the rest of your life. Yes your life will change but you can still make all your hopes and aspirations happen if you have faith and work hard for them. Having a baby will not mess up your life but living with the resentment of killing your innocent child's life will.


You will regret it, it will keep you up at night for a while. There are support groups for this. To be honest, even a planned pregnancy can result in this kind of ambiguity. You develop new hopes, dreams, and talents as a mother. There's distance learning everywhere - no need to give up school. Beer chugging frat parties, yes, school no. You're the only one who can make up your mind and it seems pretty set. It's a hard call to make, but abortion could be right for you. Expect to grieve. Expect guilt. And no matter what you think about life after, you'll never be a kid again.


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Gosh, I feel for you. People have strong opinions about this and they can be really cruel, so beware. Get ready for that. No one can tell you what to do, and thats your delimma. I have a couple of thoughts to offer. 1. If you keep the baby it does NOT mean that your life is over. There are many girls who continue their education with small children. Its just that your priorities will be different. You will need a lot of family support. It will be hard, but it can be done. 2. If you decide to terminate, then once you do it, talk to a counselor for support and then don't look back. I mean, you have to LET IT GO and not beat yourself up about it for the rest of your life. Good luck! Be strong either way!


First and foremost, please don't kill it. I'm not just saying that as an abortion survivor, I'm saying that because the emotional tool I've seen in women who have had one seems to be almost unbearable. My mom (who is now Catholic and pro-life) had me at 19. She never became a teacher, but she has 5 children that make her amazingly happy. She wrote me a journal when she was pregnant with me. In it she says she's sorry for any family problems she might have caused, she vents about her bad decision, she has a few choice words for all the vomiting I made her do, but it was really beautiful watching Mom mature throughout the course of the journal. She is finally back in school, is getting promotion after promotion at the store she works at, and is a wonderful woman. Yeah, being a mom can do that for you. I understand wanting to be a kid, and part of being a mature woman (and a mother) is being...wait for it... child-like. Might not make sense now but if you become a mother and woman, then you will. She did struggle a bit with money, and her parents-in-law resented her and my dad for getting her pregnant. However, they have considerably warmed up to her, even the extremely strict old Korean woman that I call my grandmother. I did resent my mother a bit...a lot...more than a lot... when I found out she tried to abort me... but she's my mom. I love her. :D <3



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